Coffee as a Love Language
You may have heard of the 5 Love Languages before, and you may even know what your top love language is! But, have you ever considered coffee as one of your love languages?
The concept of love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, where he describes these five unique styles of communicating love
From receiving gifts to quality time, you can incorporate the art of coffee into your everyday lifestyle to please both yourself and your friends/family/partner. Read ahead to see how we make coffee a true act of love.
Acts of Service
Those with this love language value the little actions in life. Whether its breakfast in bed, help with homework, or driving them to the airport. People with acts of service as their primary love language feel the most seen when they are being physically taken cared of.
A coffee act of service can look like making your loved one a cup in the morning, or taking the time out of your day to drop off an iced latte in the middle of a busy week.
Try something new with your drink-- make them a layered coffee drink with strawberries, or give latte art a go! Whatever it is you choose to do, act out of love and your service will surely be graciously accepted.
Words of Affirmation
Your words of affirmation lovers feel the most appreciated and seen when you verbally tell them how grateful you are for them. Complimenting their character, reassuring them of your love, or reminding them in notes how appreciative you are of their presence in your life are all excellent ways to show a words of affirmation person you see them.
In coffee terms, we suggest leaving short encouraging notes next to your instant coffee every morning, complimenting their brew, and thanking them daily for the coffee they make you-- or not! Thank them for drinking the coffee you make, and make sure their mornings start off with an overwhelming feeling of love.
Receiving Gifts isn’t the love language of “stuff.” Instead, it digs deeper into the sentimental reasons for a knickknack you might’ve picked out for them. Bringing home a souvenir so they know you were thinking of them on your trip, or finally surprising them with that one gift they’ve been eyeing for months.
For coffee and TV lovers, this could look like gifting them a “Central Perk” or “Luke’s Diner” mug, getting them the state of the art brewer they’ve been longing for since last year, or simply bringing them a delicious cup of coffee from their favorite coffee shop one morning. Let your receiving gifts lovers feel seen and appreciated by putting thought into the items you pick out for them.
If you love getting hugs from people you love, your love language might be physical touch! From hand holding to cuddling on the couch, physical touch lovers are the most intimate and affectionate people you’ll ever meet.
We love our physical touch friends because of the comfort they find in holding on tight to a warm cup of coffee on a chilly morning. Sit next to your partner during breakfast, or cuddle up on the couch with a cup of coffee to relax from the day’s work. Whatever you choose, make sure the coffee is always nice and warm even if your hands aren’t.
Those who prefer the quality time love language value the moments in life where they get to spend every moment of their day with the people they love. From planning a spontaneous day-long road trip, to playing board games with friends, to sitting in silence with the person they love, quality time individuals feel most seen and valued when others make time for them.
We love the quality time love language because that means coffee talks, going for a walk to your favorite coffee shop, or bonding over your favorite latte as you sit together in the comfort of your own home. If you have a quality time lover in your life, make sure to find ways to make your busy days a little less chaotic so that you have time to spend with the people who love you the most. Saving time on making time could be one way for doing so. Switch to quality instant coffee and cut down your coffee making time.